Discernment in Relationships and Conscious Relations – Bernard Guenther
Relationships take on a whole new level for anyone who has taken the “red pill”, i.e. anyone who is sincerely engaged in seeking truth, self-work and cultural/social de-programming in order to transcend the Matrix on The Path Towards Awakening.
However, before two people can actually engage in (or enter) this “higher” level of conscious relationship, it is best if both individuals have done a good amount of sincere self-work on themselves on their own, confronted their shadows, childhood wounding, social/religious/cultural conditioning, mechanical behaviors, etc,…as well as having established healthy self-love parameters. Learning to thrive in and enjoy solitude without “needing” anyone is also a prerequisite before being able to engage successfully in conscious relationships.
Articles such as “what conscious women want from men“, “what conscious men want from women” or “you need a warrior man/woman” that have been circling around make no sense for the most part and couldn’t actually have been written by truly “conscious” men/women. These kind of articles oftentimes tie into “victim consciousness” on some level as well as projections, entitlement, lack of taking responsibility and lack of understanding that on some level we always attract (or are attracted to) someone based on unconscious Shadow aspects (like “The Dance between Codependents and Narcissists“) , even if we don’t see it consciously and hence “blame” the other person for not being “conscious”, having all sorts of expectations. There is also much distortion in the New Age version of “Twin Flames” with people over–estimating their level of Being (soul embodiment).
It always takes two to tango. As long as we haven’t owned our own shadow aspects, it will always come back to us (mirrored) through other people, or via occult entity attacks/interference, injecting through the cracks of our energy body due to lack of embodiment, past wounding/trauma and not having fully anchored our soul essence into the body/avatar. The extreme case of such a hyperdimensional influenced romantic relationships is the “Love Bite” or “Dark Side of Cupid”.
In short, if you want a “conscious” partner, the work is with yourself first and foremost with radical self–honesty. Anyone who is waiting for the perfect partner to appear without taking full responsibility for his/her own soul evolution and is caught in blaming/projecting/expecting, and feeling like a victim will be greatly disappointed. The relationships in your life (not only romantic) are also a gauge/measure/reflection of where you are at in your own soul evolution.
At the end relationships are lessons in love, not an end in themselves. Not every relationship can be worked on either and there comes a time to let go and move on without trying (and without blame) to force something that just isn’t meant to be, otherwise both people are keeping each other from growing/evolving. Knowing when to let go/break up or if it’s truly worth to work on the relationship depends on the specific unique situation, but mostly your inner knowing/intuition already and always knows but the mind can complicate things, especially if we don’t trust our non-verbal inner guidance.
People come in and out of our lives to provide certain lessons. Not everyone is meant to stay “forever”. Oftentimes we are meant to be “alone” for a period of time with regards to our soul evolution, aligning ourselves with our unique soul purpose/Divine Will (and Divine Timing), patiently learning our lessons as opposed to being “slave” to the whims and desires of the impatient, desperate, and conditioned ego-personality.
With that being said, here are some writings on conscious relationships from various authors:
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