Boundaries are good. Learning to say, “No!” and mean it, is good. While here on this Earth, we’re not meant to blend into One, despite some of the teachings of the so-called New Age movement. To ascend, one must first attain self-mastery, which includes having a strong sense of Self… which doesn’t end at the skin but encompasses the multi-dimensional Self, as well. And yes, there is paradoxes involved when your consciousness begins to expand, but to function in the physical plane, you must also utilize boundaries.
Codependence is the technical term for when you can’t tell where you end and someone else begins. For instance, you might “walk on eggshells” when your partner is in a bad mood, because your sense of Personal Safety depends on not being blasted if you say the wrong thing or look the wrong way. Or you may be flooded with Abandonment when an expected phone call from someone important doesn’t materialize. Then when they do call they ask you questions that you’re squeamish about answering because if you’re Honest you Fear it might damage your reputation with them. That might bring up your Shame, or if you’re Offended that they ask such questions, your Suffocation; either way you Withdraw.
Another technical term for issues like these is Boundaries. Boundaries is how we know, to the extent that we do, where our Sovereignty ends and theirs begins. If you look around…
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